By Kerry Frank September 6, 2025
It’s often in our hardest seasons that we discover who really shows up for us. Who picks up the phone when you call. Who listens without glancing at the clock or rushing to say, “I’ve got to go.” In struggle, you find your people.
Over time, I’ve realized friendships can shift with life’s seasons. The people who were right for one chapter may not always be the ones you need in the next. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean ending every friendship, but it does mean being intentional with your most valuable resource: your time. Why spend it in places or with people who drain you, when you could invest it in relationships that are lifegiving and reciprocal?
Of course, finding new friends isn’t always easy. In today’s digital world, it can feel harder than ever to make real connections. Too often, it feels like the only options are church or bars. That’s one of the reasons our family is so passionate about Hidden Creek Estates. We’ve built it to be a place where community can gather, where neighbors meet neighbors and strangers leave as friends.
We’ve seen it happen over and over again. At a recent wine dinner, I noticed a couple sitting at our long community table who had just relocated and didn’t know anyone yet. I told them, “You’re in luck. I’ll introduce you to a few people tonight.” As I walked down the table of forty, it suddenly hit me: seven couples at that dinner were once in the exact same situation. Over the years, I had introduced each of them to others at events like this, and now they were all friends, hosting dinners in their homes, sharing life together. The realization stopped me in my tracks. I had to pause, take a breath, and say, “I’m sorry, but it just hit me. Our dream of connecting our community is really happening.”
That’s the power of finding your people. It may take courage, effort, and a willingness to try something new, but don’t give up. Seek out places where you can connect, and look for friends who align with where you are in life and where you’re going. It may just be one of the most lifegiving investments you’ll ever make in yourself.
~ Kerry
#findingyourpeople #movingforward #courage #lifegiving
The statement above is absolutely true: ‘Why waste your time and energy on people who drain you, when you could be investing in relationships that are life-giving and reciprocal?’ Your inner well-being is essential, and surrounding yourself with people who help you grow and move forward is far more valuable than staying stuck with those who hold you back.
It can be sad to realize due to a life change, whether it be a work reorder, a move or simply new interests, and relationships start to find space and time between visits. There will be those friends where that won’t matter, you pick up where you left off. But other relationships find a natural end. You are absolutely right, Kerry, about intentionally seeking out places to find the people that fit where you are in your life when you find a void. It takes a certain amount of “brave” to step forward with a smile and outstretched hand, but the effort is so worth it. (And Hidden Creek Estates is one of those magical, find your people places. 😊!)
It is always interesting when you are in a place and you get involved in the conversation with people that were complete strangers and you find that you have many of the same interests, have some laughs together and the evening takes a turn into a new and wonderful experience.
Intention is my noun of the year thanks to a PTSD therapist who just retired.